Confrontation (GBE2 Prompt)This topic makes me uncomfortable.
I prefer to focus on things that are positive in my world. I believe that what we give our energy and attention to, we bring into our world. I prefer to focus on things that make me smile, laugh, or learn.
It means "a war of words" in some thesaurus', and war of any kind is against my inner spirit. Though I suppose internally I confront my fears on a regular basis.
Heartless response,
removed...
uncomfortable.
Human vampires are the confrontation mongers. Those people who have nothing better to do than win their "war of words" with another. They have to be right, and will fight to get their point across.
Until
nobody listens.
Silent
acquiescence
forbids
a foe.
You are very right that confrontation is usually a negative thing, but life sometimes does require that you stand up for yourself or someone else and it's just a fact. I don't go looking for it, but if it finds me, I'm ready.
ReplyDeleteI do love that you avoid it, too. ♥
Thanks Jo. It is a hard thing for me to really think about, and I have to think about something to write about it. When it's necessary, I will, but I don't care for it. :-)
DeleteI so agree with you, this is why I took a detour on my post today :)
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed the journey into Tutankhamun. The displays were fantastic!
DeleteLoved the picture to go along with your thoughts. It's taken me until just recently to even approach confrontation in my life. I generally avoid it at all costs, but find if I ever am going to stick up for myself, it comes into play. I work hard to keep it at a low level though. Loved the form you used to express yourself!
ReplyDeleteThank you Amy. It's something I had to do a lot of (for survival) while I was growing up, and while I am adept at it, the feeling it gives me inside is not a pleasant one. I do avoid it as often as possible. Sticking up for yourself is really important too though, and I know it sometimes requires confrontation.
DeleteThank you for your input!
I understood every word of this and I completely agree with you. Some people feel great joy when involved in a verbal debate. The battle to prove you're "right" and the other is wrong!...just not into that. :)
ReplyDeleteIt's something I learned when I was really young, and watched afterward for many years. A friend of mine calls them "human vampires" because the main objective is to literally suck the life out of someone else.
DeleteThanks for your input!
I agree with you! I try to avoid it all costs too, I haven't blogged on this yet either..
ReplyDeleteThank you Beautiful Disaster (love the way you put your name together:-)
DeleteAlthough confrontation can sometimes be a negative thing, sometimes it is necessary to move forward. Moving forward is always a good thing. :D
ReplyDeleteKathy
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That's true enough Kathy. I just prefer other methods IF it is at all possible!
DeleteIn general we think confrontation is a negative experience because of it's drain on our psyche. I hate it myself, but I will stand up for myself if the situation requires it. The cost is always high because later I am drained. Your verse mixed in with your prose added depth to the sentiment of the write. (like the new look, btw)
ReplyDeleteYes, I think that's exactly why Brenda. When it is an exchange, people can negotiate their portion of the issue, and it is not as draining as a full-on confrontation.
DeleteThank you! I wanted it to be a little more simple... clean... :-)
I dislike confrontation and avoid it whenever possible, but sometimes it's necessary to stand up for something you believe in.
ReplyDeleteTrue enough Paula. I think my issue with this write had more to do with considering whether I wanted to give the time to a prompt that was considered to be negative by me in the first place. Next time I will avoid it... simple enough :-)
DeleteWell done on a difficult subject. I have met a few "human vampires" in my life and they are never pleasant to deal with.
ReplyDeleteThank you Kat. No they are not, and they have shaaaarp teeth! (grinZ just a little)
DeleteLol! So very true..until no one listens. I don't like that sound human vampires make either :)
ReplyDeleteheheh... Thanks for peeking in here with your feathered self. No, the slurping is really obnoxious ;-)
DeleteYes, those human vampires are not fun to deal with!!! I don't think confrontation has to be negative, sometimes everyone feels better once they get things off their chest. It is just finding the best way to communicate the problem that is hard to figure out.
ReplyDeleteHi Elizabeth, I think there is a distinct difference between confrontation and communication. When I have to consider a confrontation with someone, it usually comes with some level of angst. If I am communication (aka getting things out in the air) it is more about making time to take it seriously, without confrontation. I do see where it is necessary sometimes, but for me, it is mostly for someone who is unable to do it for themselves.
DeleteGreat post. Yes most of us are not wired to like confrontation. I used to hate it but am more comfy with it now since it does help bring intimacy nearer. We can agree to disagree....
ReplyDeleteThanks Laura, I like to resolve issues that keep communication open between people that I care about, but I think that's different than confrontation. Agreeing to disagree is such an important element for those that matter most!
DeleteYou eloquently captured my emotional experience of confrontation...thanks!
ReplyDeleteThank you Michael, both for stopping by and providing your input.
DeleteI'm not a fan of confrontation, either. I would guess that most peaceful people feel much the same. Like has been said above, though, sometimes we need to stand up and speak up, even if it makes out tummies flip over to do it!
ReplyDeleteYou are right about that Beth. Actually though, I had to work hard NOT to confront, after I learned how ;-)
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